Why I Like People Who Hate Me For Liking To Write About Hating My Gay Body

Dear Diary, Last week I wrote a blog post entitled Why The Gays Hate Their Bodies. Some people loved it, many people hated it, and what I learned was that everyone else is as sensitive about their bodies as I am. My reasoning for posting was threefold. I wanted to expose the conflicted feelings I have about my own body so that other people struggling with the same issues would feel less alone in their worries. I wanted to point out that there are specific factors to being a gay man that lead to us having a heightened self-consciousness about…

Duck, duck….no duck

By Contributing Food Editor Jared Levan Dear Californians, As I’m sure many of you aware, you recently lost the right to purchase foie gras (since, approximately July 1st). While the ban was targeted specifically at the sale of the delicious end product that is foie gras, it was apparently so “broadly” written that it may also carry over to all skin, feather and other by-products that come from duck raised for foie gras production. So what’s the big deal? Well the reason that animal rights activists are so against the sale of foie gras is, not surprisingly, focused on the…

Why The Gays Hate Their Bodies

Dear Straight People, Every morning when I wake up, this is what I think I look like: Meanwhile, laying right next to me is my boyfriend. He looks like this: I know what you’re thinking. I’m lucky, right? I know. Not only does my model boyfriend look like a model, my friends look like this: I never sought out to have friends with such perfect bodies. Quite the contrary actually. As an FFK (Former Fat Kid) I’ve always identified as a fat person. But for some reason when I grew up all my friends became hot skinny people. This could…

Ode to Life, Julia Child (1912-2004)

By Contributing Food Editor Jared Levan Dear Julia Child, With this week marking what would have been your 100th birthday, I felt obliged to commemorate your life and your accomplishments. Before you were Julia Child, you were Julia McWilliams of Pasadena, California. It’s hard to believe, but you weren’t always passionate about food and cooking. You met your husband, Paul Child, and fell in love. You and Paul moved to Paris–unbeknownst to you, this relocation would change your life forever. While there, you fell in love again (this time with food). The passion and curiosity that blossomed led you to…

21 Shelves I Want In My Life Right Now

Dear My Non-Existent Shelves, Each day I when wake up, dewy-eyed and ready to start the day, the first thing I think to myself is, “Gee, I wish I had some shelves to put all these stacks of books in.” Sure, stacks of books make a home look inviting and lived-in, but shelving is glamour on a whole new level. These shelves look like something I would make if I had the skills. Rectangular and crazy looking (like my face). AND they double as stairs. (Double win). These shelves are pretty minimal and would be boring if it weren’t for…

Gore Vidal: 1925 – 2012

Dear Gore Vidal, Few writers have touched my life the way you did. Your stories have enriched my life, haunted my memories, and were the lens through which I viewed my twenties. In 2003, my sister gave me a copy of your novel, The City and the Pillar, which is not only one of the very first novels to openly discuss complex gay characters, but is also the most heartwrenching work of fiction I have ever read. Equally captivating are your memoirs, Palimpsest and Point to Point Navigation. Through sharing your fascinating life story, you also shared your humanity. Your…